Nobody allows their children to dance and to sing and to shout and to jump. For trivial reasons – perhaps something may be broken, perhaps they may get their clothes wet in the rain if they run out; for these small things – a great spiritual quality, playfulness, is completely destroyed.
The obedient child is praised by his parents, by his teachers, by everybody, and the playful child is condemned. His playfulness may be absolutely harmless, but he is condemned because there is potentially a danger of rebellion. If the child goes on growing with full freedom to be playful, he will turn out to be a rebel. He will not easily be enslaved; he will not be easily put into armies to destroy people or be to be destroyed himself.
The rebellious child will turn out to be a rebellious youth. Then you cannot force him into a particular job; then the child cannot be forced to fulfill the unfulfilled desires and longings of the parents. The rebellious youth will go his own way. He will live his life according to his own innermost desires, not according to somebody else’s ideals.
For all these reasons playfulness is stifled, crushed from the very beginning. Your nature is never allowed to have its say. Slowly, slowly you start carrying a dead child within yourself. This dead child within you destroys you sense of humor; you cannot laugh with you total heart, you cannot play, you cannot enjoy the small things of life. You become so serious that your life, rather than expanding, starts shrinking.
Life should be, each moment, a precious creativity. What you crate does not matter – it may be just sandcastles on the seashore, but whatever you do should come out of your playfulness and joy. OSHO