Actively curate most of what you absorb, from media and relationships. Set boundaries.
Otherwise, you’re taking on a staggering amount of violence that has become normalized – giving the impression that it’s inevitable when actually it’s a choice. A choice between gussied-up futility and a place of authenticity, compassion and peace.
Despite what the naysayers say, the naive are not those who believe in choice but those who have given in, have been taken over, fatalistically bamboozled, by the violent veneer. Still, even they can be resuscitated by a single moment of inspiration and courage that reconnects them to their essence.
And despite how gloomy things can appear, multitudes of naysayers are by the day embracing choice. Not all need to see or believe this. Eventually, it’ll be an easy and welcoming bandwagon to jump on to.
In the meantime, curate, for your sake. For all our sakes.
Saw this on Facebook today… Consider not hating anything, including small talk. Hating anything means hating ourselves. It means resistance to life. Many of us need to engage with small talk to feel safe, to build a bridge that may, just may, result in me entrusting you with my heart.
Sometimes, we may not get there. Small talk may be the best we can do. And that’s okay. If it never goes any deeper, rest assured, there are good reasons for that. Besides, there is much to glean and appreciate between the lines of the small talk – hard to see and feel when all we’re concerned with is what we like, expect, want and need.
A lyric from the song, Great Spirit, by Nahko.
Friends, I keep seeing comments online about bad parking jobs (see link above). How stupid and thoughtless can people be we think to ourselves, judging people out of hand. To compound this judgment we then condone and celebrate immature and childish behavior in retaliation.
Here’s the issue: we have no idea what the lay of the land was before that car arrived and parked. Might they have just parked carelessly? Sure. But remember those times you have gone to park your car and have had no choice but to park over lines because of how the cars around you have parked. Now imagine those two cars leaving while you are shopping. Visualize what your car looks like now that it’s isolated. Now you’re one of these alleged fools, worthy to have a shopping cart twist-tied to your door handle (which I saw the other day).
If you haven’t read The Four Agreements, check it out. One of the agreements is ‘don’t make assumptions’. We are so quick to assume and condemn in our world while we are in possession of limited information.
Why do we so often automatically assume the worst about people? No assumptions required to answer that question because that’s how we feel about ourselves. Constantly denigrating ourselves and others.
Enough of this petty way of living. It stokes the ego for a few moments but only ends up reinforcing the worst in us in the long term.
Let’s try assuming the best in others and ourselves. Assuming okay in this instance!